Toni Morrison’s, Sula beautifully melds the relationship entities of friendship and family. A friend can seem more of a part of a family than certain members of that family. I think that Morrison shows her readers the importance of friendship, especially between two girls, and how the love of a friend can be more meaningful and stronger than the bond between a mother and daughter. Yes a mother does give her daughter her life blood, but perhaps it is this fact that creates a certain barrier between a mother and child. The bond seems too forced at times and almost submissive. Perhaps mothers and daughters, especially those depicted in Sula separate their selves from one another because they are too afraid of the other learning secrets or the shameful recognition that they are one in the same person.
A mother always wants more for her a child, but I think Hannah demonstrates the fears a mother has of a daughter turning into the mother when she declares she loves Sula, but does not like her. In this time period, town and racial divisions, Hannah does not see Sula as capable of becoming more than what she (Hannah) is. This hurts both Hannah and Sula, causing them to further emotionally separate their selves from one another. This emotional separation is seen as Sula just stands aside and watches Hannah burn to death and be smothered in boiling water.
On the flip side, a friend is not someone that a person is born into or onto. They are an acquaintance that a person grows to love and appreciate for who they are as a whole person and that they can share and learn the secrets of life together. Both Sula and Nel love one another despite their family differences and grow to long for one another to fulfill their emptiness and share their lives with, never afraid to shame or judge the other. An example of this careless, open and everlasting friendship is seen on page 105 when Nel shares with readers that although Sula just slept with Jude she does not seem shameful or naked. The experiences the girls have shared and trials of growing up hold the girls true to one another because they are all the other has to recall every smile and tear they shared in the private and most meaningful instances of life. There is an unspoken need for one another. Both women demonstrate this need in each of their final scenes in the novel. Sula leaves the earth in the most peaceful and beautiful manner, all the while thinking of and wanting to tell only Nel of this experiencing and what she was thinking and going through. In the closing of the novel, although Nel is still alive, the reader leaves her crying and calling to Sula, her one true love in life, the only person that understood her and her feelings.